Biscuit of The Day

Don't forget to stop and take a look around at the things that are important. 


About two days ago my wife helped me realize that I am always in work mode and I am never really home. It made me realize that I have been missing some really important opportunities to connect with my family. Tonight I went to my daughters music recital at her school and I realized that I have a very talented girl living under the same roof as I do. Crazy where did she come from? Did I miss something while I was stuck at work 24 hours a day? 
I was not at work tonight I was at the recital ( Truly at the recital). I had so much fun and I got to see who she really is. She was the most beautiful talented girl I have ever seen and I could not help but smile bigger then I have ever smiled in my whole life. I felt so connected to her and my love for her increased 100 times. 


Do you ever get so caught up in providing for your family that you miss all the good stuff? Do you ever come home so tired that you just don't want to participate in the family day to day stuff? If you don't think there is any good stuff going on, stop for a few minutes and watch closely. You will be surprised what you see. I have got so caught up in the thick of thin things that I have missed the small stuff that passes by in the blink of an eye. Now I don't want to blink because I am afraid to miss something. 


So how do I break free form this cycle that so easily over takes me? Like Steven Covey said do the first things first. 
1. Recognizing that this is a problem is the first step to breaking free. Kirk Duncan calls it the Wall. 
2. Now that I know this is a problem I need to be checking in with myself every-once in  a while. James Allen wrote: Man is made or unmade by himself; in the armory of thought he forges the weapons by which he destroys himself. He also fashions the tools with which he builds for himself heavenly mansions of joy and strength and peace. 
So if this is true then I can build the relationship with my family that I have always wanted or I can really destroy my family with weapons I forge. 


What kind of weapons do I Forge that will destroy my family? 
Weapon 1: Do I really listen to my wife or children or am I always thinking about work? 
Weapon 2: When I see the negative in a family member do I point it out? 
Weapon 3: Do I see a messy room or undone chores as bothersome? 
Weapon 4: Am I so caught up in needing to be right that I will make someone feel small to show that I am right? 


What tools can I fashion to shield my family from these weapons? 
Tool 1: Steven Covey wrote that we need to seek first to understand and then be understood. He also said that understanding to the soul is what air is to the body. Are you really truly listening? 


Tool 2: Og Mandino wrote that are love can soften the hardest hearts like the sun who's ray soften the coldest clay. Point out what you love about your family members as much as you can everyday and they will become what you see.


Tool 3: Again Steven Covey said 1+1= more then two. Synergy Find the messy room as an opportunity to be with your child and work together towards a common goal. Then they will trust that when they get stuck or behind they and rely on you to help then find the way. 


Tool 4: David Blanchard one of my super hero's "said just let it go, do not tare someone down in the name of being right JUST LET IT GO". It is OK for someone to have a different truth then we do. Truth is perception and perception is King of all. Just love people for who they really are children of God. 


I am a work in progress and these are some of the things that I have learned while I have been on this earth. And I have learned them because I have been willing to look inside myself and be OK with the flaws that I have found. These flaws give me something to work on with my Higher Power. He knows the answers so I want him to be my 1+1= more then 2 (Synergy to the 10th power).   


I hope you enjoyed this blog please comment. 


William Henderson  






  

Biscuit of The Day

Do you want to move yourself or you family up to the next level? Have you ever felt that it is impossible to do so?

 Well I learned something really cool today that just might help you. Kirk Duncan for 3 Key Elements said we need to take the negative statements we hear and write them down. Then take them and write the opposite of them. For example, have you ever told yourself that you are you are stupid? Write on a piece of paper that you are smart. Then use these opposites to right your positive declarations for your family and your self. 

Tonight as a family we put together the Henderson Family Declaration statement. We declared to the opposition that we think only good things about each other and where we stand. Just as the this nation declared where it stands through its Declaration of Independence. We the people of the Henderson Family declare who we are and where we stand.   

Do you have a Declaration statement for you self and your family? If you don't, get one,  if you have problems putting one together call me and I can teach your family how to put one together for a small fee. 

Thank you for reading. 

William Henderson  

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Biscuit of The Day

"You must be the change you wish to see in the world." -- Gandhi 


Wow it starts with me. Sometimes that is a hard pill to swallow. So if  I need to be the change, does that mean that I need to be the type of person that would get along with the person that I am not getting along with? Pretty cool,  Gandhi was ahead of his time for sure. 


So if you are single and you can imagine the type of person you would like to be with. The first quest that you might want to ask yourself is, Are you the type of person that would attract the type of person you are looking for?


If you are married you could ask yourself are you continuing to be the type of person that your spouse wants to be with? If you are not sure ask your spouse what they want and become the change you want to see in your relationship. 

Thanks for reading. 

William Henderson 

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Why is it so hard to set a schedule and keep it? How often do you let others change your schedule? This has been the battle for me for as long as I can remember. I have found that the reason it has been a struggle is because I am resistant to structure. When you were a kid did you always get into trouble? Did it drive you crazy when someone told you what to do? If you answered yes to these questions then you are most likely resistant to structure.

Isn't it crazy that I am resistant to the very thing that will make me successful? The thing that is even crazier is that I get angry because everything seems to be such a struggle. You could say I gave myself a self inflicted gun shot wound on this one.  Hard pill to swallow when I look at it this way. You mean I struggle because of choices I make?  Struggle will come no matter what. And some times it will come for no reason. So why add more than you need ? Find a way to get out of the fly by the seat of your pants mode and strap yourself in so you can keep control of the vehicle when the roads get bumpy.

 

 Thank you for reading 

William Henderson

Biscuit of The Day

Christopher Harding
 I found this on Face book thought it was cool.

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William Henderson

Biscuit of The Day

In the Bible dictionary under Faith it says " faith is a principle of action and of power, and by it one can command the elements and/or heal the sick, or influence any number of circumstances when occasion warrants. (Jacob 4: 4-7). All true faith must be based upon correct knowledge or it cannot produce the desired results. True faith always moves it's possessor to some kind physical or mental action ; it carries an assurance of the fulfillment of things hoped for. A lack of faith leads one to despair.

So what do I have to do to have more faith? ACTION mental and physical ACTION. I have found that I never have my faith realized until I am in action for a period of time. This is an unchangeable principle and there is no way around it. I love it and I will build my life around it.

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William Henderson

Biscuit of The Day

I Caught my self judging someone today and I stopped myself right in the middle of it. A friend of mine told me last week that he tries to learn something from everyone he comes in contact with. He is a very successful business owner that pays about 4 times more in taxes than I make in a year. Is there a connection here?   

I have learned that relationships lead to money and money is a relationship. Judging someone has nerve built a very good relationship. There is a cycle that Kirk Duncan taught me last weekend and it is called the give and receive cycle. In order to get more one needs to learn how to receive more.  So does this mean I need to swallow my Pride and say thank you to compliments and gracefully except gifts? I used to dismiss compliments by saying well I do my best or it was alright. Receiving a compliment is excepting  service from the one that gives the compliment. Let them serve you and it will bless their life. My mother told me one day that I was a blessing thief because I did not except help from others. She said that being served is just as important as serving. For those that follow Christ he said to his apostles that if they did not let him wash their feet they did not have anything to do with him. 

Pretty eye opening for me, it makes me want to find people that want to serve me. Might sound selfish but if you are looking for that guess what happens? You will also find people to serve. Tomorrow take the time to recognize the person at the store that is checking you out by telling them how great of a job they are doing and thank them for serving you. Do this everywhere you go and you will be astounded on the transformation in you own heart. Dave Blanchard said always leave people better then you found them and you will become what Og Mandino said A MAN AMONG MEN. 

I hope you enjoyed

William Henderson